The truth about love

An article I have written several years ago on the subject of love:

Most everybody who experienced the amazing feeling of being in love also can give testimony to how quickly the feeling can subside over time. After the initial infatuation period is over and people get used to each other things can significantly change. People who once felt deep compassion, tenderness and love for one another one day experience deep contempt and hatred. The reason is because we have this deep embedded notion in our culture that love is easy as long as you find the right person. Part of the problem is that we most of the time fall in love with an image we have of another person without ever having taken the time to truly get to know them. When we meet a person whom we like we most likely only see that which we want to see. In our mind we create an image of who we want to person to be, neglecting to see them as they are. People who are looking for love undergo endless procedures in order to make themselves look attractive and desirable, but neglect to show others who they really are, or to look beyond appearances and impressions.

True and genuine love is more than a just a feeling that comes over us when we meet the right person. True and mature love is an attitude, a character orientation, an activity, a giving of ourselves, of that which is alive in us, our joy, our interest, understanding, humor, our knowledge, compassion and empathy. In giving of that which is alive in ourselves we enrich the life of the other person and their sense of aliveness, and in return, we grow in our humanity by experiencing the other person fully. In order to love another person we need to see them as they are, undistorted by our illusions, hopes and expectations, in other words, we need to be aware of his or her unique individuality. Thru true compassion and empathy we can learn to experience within ourselves what another person is experiencing, and thru this experience, he and I become one. Loving someone means that we want them to grow and unfold as they are, for their own sake, in their own ways, and not for the purpose of serving us, not as an object for our use. Since love is a giving, it furthermore implies that we continuously respond to the needs of the other person, expressed or unexpressed.

Much more than a feeling, true love is a giving. It takes much more effort than previously assumed. Sincere and genuine love is unconditional and ever lasting since it goes beyond the surface of appearances and impressions. Loving another person is possible only if we know them, which is possible only if we make the effort to get to know them. Instead of being blinded by how we would want or need a person to be, we need to make more effort trying to understand who the other person really is. Many relationships drift apart because one person does not approve of the actions or behavior of the other person, without even making the effort to understand them. The issues should not be if we approve of how the other person is behaving, but rather if we accept them. People become alienated from one another over time because they think that their partner would not understand them, and then little white lies are told because we do not want to hurt the other person’s feelings, or rather we do not want to rock the boat. People remain together on the outside while becoming strangers to each other on the inside. Living side by side without any effort to relate to one another, without open and honest communication this is the recipe for a breakup. People still might remain together, but what they think about each other, well, that is kept unsaid.

The essential element missing in most relationships is openness. Openness in the way we express ourselves to the other person, and openness towards the other person. The key verb here is to relate, which is what relationships should be all about, two or more people actively relating themselves to one another without trying to manipulate, change, or judge one another. Too many times we enter into a relationship thinking we know another person as long as we like what we see, but to assume that we can ever understand another person is misleading and dangerous. Only if we are fully open towards the other person, continuously paying attention to and learning about them, only if we make the effort to see the other person in their entirety, only if we respect them and accept them as they are can we even begin to develop an understanding of who they are.

Many times we can get the false idea that we know another person based on the impression we get. Especially when it comes to love we easily cling to an image or an ideal, and our perception of another person can easily lead us to overlook important clues and insights. We then brush aside certain different and unusual behaviors and comments by the other person because we only see what we want to see and hear what we want to hear, and our perception becomes very selective and distorted. We come to believe that we already know another person based upon our perception of them, and this will sooner or later result in problems within the relationship.

If we learn to treat the other person as an equal, with all the respect and appreciation we would want them to treat us with, if we learn to be less confrontational, manipulative and domineering, and instead make the effort to be more loving, understanding, and accepting of the other person, the quality of our relationships will improve tremendously. The key of my message is that when we treat other people with respect, acceptance, appreciation we will ultimately receive back their respect, acceptance and appreciation, and even in the off chance that this is not the case, we at least we see them for who they are and we let them be, without being controlled by their negativity. Knowing that we ultimately cannot change anybody and accepting others unconditionally (without taking what they say or do personal) will ultimately change the way we live with others in positive ways. It is our responsibility as a human being to be more understanding and accepting towards others. Then we can learn to relate ourselves, openly and genuinely to other people, without trying to change or manipulate them.

However other people behave, whatever they say or do, by being more open toward them, by seeing them as they are, by allowing them to be however they choose to be can we develop a better understanding of who are as an individual. We need to surrender our need to compare others to the way we want them or need them to be, and instead accept them unconditionally. Only then is it possible to develop true and genuine human relationships, when we make the continuous effort to understand one another better can our relationships become more healthy, solid and genuine. If we learn to treat the other person as an equal, with all the respect and appreciation we would want them to treat us with, if we learn to be less confrontational, manipulative and domineering, and if we instead make the effort to be more loving, understanding, and accepting of the other person, the quality of our relationships will improve tremendously.

The mission

The following is what I consider to be an extremely powerful and significant piece of writing which I came across after meeting an individual who identified himself as a Walk-in. For those of you who dont know what that is, according to Wikipedia, A walk-in is a person whose original soul has departed his or her body and has been replaced with a new soul, either temporarily or permanently. I realize that this sounds a bit fantastic, but since we don’t even know what we don’t know about the universe and life beyond our own little existence I hope you can keep and open mind so you can understand the important message contained in what you are about to read.

Transmutational Procedure

RULES FOR DYSFUNCTIONAL PATTERNS

Step I:

In Rome, Do as the Romans

Upon arrival on the Earth plane, your instructions were to completely fall asleep—just like the local population. You were to totally forget your true identity and everything you knew.

Since most of you entered as babies, this was not difficult. Every institution in the culture supported this memory loss, and it became easier as the years went on. Any inadvertent slips on your part most likely occurred during childhood and were easily dismissed as the result of an overactive imagination.

Since imagination threatens the dysfunctionality of this world, it was probably drummed out of you as soon as possible by the adult inhabitants of the planet. What your parents were unable to suppress, the school systems most likely made short work of, as this is their specialty. In this manner, the local planetary inhabitants unwittingly assisted in maintaining the secrecy of your presence and the security of the mission.

Step II:
In Rome, Do as the Arcturians
Ground Rules

Step II of the transmutational process cannot begin until the successful completion of Step I. In short, you must be able to pass for a local, and you are not allowed to just fake it. Total dysfunctionality must be achieved before Step II can commence.

When extraterrestrial incarnates on mission to Planet Earth finally arrive at the point where they are no longer able to demand water they can drink, food they can eat, or air they can breathe without killing themselves, they are to understand that Step I of the mission has been successfully completed. The incarnates have truly become Earthlings, and Step II may now begin.

Coming Out of the Closet

You may dimly recall the saying, “In Rome, do as the Arcturians.” If not, don’t strain your memory. Even if you do remember, the humor of it may not be immediately evident. That catchy little intergalactic saying was coined to capture the essence of Step II of the transmutational procedure. That procedure entails waking up to your true identity and forgetting everything you learned up until this point so that you can remember what you actually knew before you got here. In other words, you are to junk the entire identity you just spent a lifetime laboriously creating. Now do you see why we say the humor may escape you?
All Roads Lead Away from Rome

Yes, you understood the preceding entry correctly. You are to disengage yourself from your old identity and dissociate from a declining Rome. After falling asleep profoundly, you are now expected to wake up, equally profoundly. Now is the time to dismantle all false identity. Now is the time to forget that which has been learned in deference to that which is deeply known. Now begins the awesome process of altering human history. Now is the time for everything, and now is here.

(Refer to “Time/Space Anomalies and Their Physical Functions” in this section for further clarification on “now.” Also see “Passing for White” and “Closet Cases” in Troubleshooting for some precautionary instructions about this emerging consciousness.)

Gentle Reminder

Some of you are probably wondering why such a torturous route was chosen to get to the desired destination. The reason you are wondering this is because you have been on this planet too long and have absorbed some, if not all, of its dysfunctional thinking. Keep in mind that this planet is no model for rational thought, and that what passes for sanity here is sending chills down the spine of the remainder of the universe.

The need to absorb the dysfunctionality of the planet is in order to legitimately disarm its patterns. Any other method would constitute an invasion, and we do not invade. We alter by earning the right to do so. No entity is permitted to enter an alien world and disarm its dysfunctional patterns without having lived them. That is in compliance with Universal Law, which we represent.

Although we have had transmissions from many of you, screaming, “Invade already. Just get me out of here!,” we regretfully remind you that that is not what you signed up for. Getting out of here is not the point. Getting more light into here is. Remember?

Taken from: https://outrageousminds.files.wordpress.com/2014/01/e-t-101.pdf

The war within

A Cherokee Indian elder was teaching his grandchildren about life.

He said to them, “A fight is going on inside me… it is a terrible fight
and it is between two wolves.

One wolf represents fear, anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance,
self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority,
and ego.

The other stands for joy, peace, love, hope, sharing, serenity, humility,
kindness, benevolence, friendship, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion,
and faith.

This same fight is going on inside of you, and inside every other person,
too.”

The children thought about it for a minute and then one child asked his
grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”

The old Cherokee elder replied simply … “The one you feed.”

 

I really love this story because it beautifully illustrates the real reason for violence, aggression and anger. The problem does not lie outside of us and what (or who) we blame for when we get angry, hostile, argumentative, depressed or otherwise negative, but instead the problem lies within ourselves and has to do with what emotion we feed, love or fear.

We know that we cannot change that which lies outside of our control, but we are still trying to do that every time we react negatively towards a situation or person we do not like, and the reason can be found in our internalized fear.  This fear comes up almost automatically when we are in a situation that  makes us feel uncomfortable and then triggers all kinds of negative emotion within ourselves, and so it is our ‘natural’ response to want to change that which makes us feel bad. We think that by simply getting rid of that which created those negative emotions within ourselves the problem will be solved. It is part of our programming that we don’t want to deal with things that ‘make’ us feel bad and so we only look for experiences, people and circumstances which stimulate positive emotions within ourselves. Of course there is nothing really wrong with that per se, but the only problem with this kind of thinking is that we are shifting responsibility towards something outside of us, and that  keeps us from understanding, directing and taking responsibility for our  the flow of our own energies and emotions.